If I click the format painter on the bullet, it indents the bullet, if I click the bullet again with the format painter, the indention goes back to normal.

Unexpected behavior with indentation in bulleted and numbered lists usually means that the indentation wasn't defined correctly to begin with. (The correct way is via Adjust Indents as I mentioned earlier in this thread.)

In this case, since you are changing paragraph spacing only for some paragraphs, you could add the spacing as direct formatting. Or perhaps you could create a separate bulleted style for the purpose.

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Stefan Blom
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