How can I get a different header/footer on the second page?
Numbering Front Matter (Ribbon) by Suzanne Barnhill, MVP
Those are likely all you will need.
For the nitty-gritty: Header/Footer Settings Recap
Suzanne Barnhill has a template here: http://wordfaqs.ssbarnhill.com/tutorials.htm
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You want to start your book and your chapters on odd-pages so you will want odd-page section breaks.