Another long winded approach that might work.
Try on a copy of your original first.
Columns A, B and C have phone numbers to be compared to.
Column D has the phone numbers without bracketed area codes and a possible 1 in front
Columns E and F are empty and free to use.
Code:
Sub cjamps()
Dim i As Long, c As Range
Application.ScreenUpdating = False
With Range("D2:D" & Cells(Rows.Count, "D").End(xlUp).Row)
.Offset(, 1).Formula = "=IF(LEN(RC[-1])=13,RIGHT(RC[-1],12),RC[-1])"
.Offset(, 1).Value = .Offset(, 1).Value
.Offset(, 2).Formula = "= ""(""&LEFT(RC[-1],3)&"")""&"" ""&MID(RC[-1],5,3)&"" ""&MID(RC[-1],9,4)"
.Offset(, 2).Value = .Offset(, 2).Value
End With
For Each c In Range("F2:F" & Cells(Rows.Count, "F").End(xlUp).Row)
For i = 2 To Cells(Rows.Count, "F").End(xlUp).Row
If WorksheetFunction.CountIf(Range(c.Offset(, -5).Address & ":" & c.Offset(, -3).Address), c.Value) <> 0 Then c.Offset(, -2).ClearContents: Exit For
Next i
Next c
Columns("E:F").ClearContents
Application.ScreenUpdating = True
End Sub